Swingers Section
Hello and welcome to our swingers section! We have provided this section for all of you that are interested or curious about the lifestyle and want to know the best way in finding, getting to know and meeting other swingers. To find out the best way to go about joining this lifestyle and meeting quality people, we suggest you read "Getting Into The Swing of Things", a book written by Mel Douthett that covers everything from how to get started, what to look for and how to handle all types of situations that come your way. You can download the e-book immediately by clicking here.
What is Swinging?
We have been in the lifestyle for a few years and define swinging to be an alternative, recreational activity for open-minded adults (couples) meeting with other couples, single females or single males for sex. In order to enter this lifestyle and benefit from it, you as a couple must have excellent communication and a strong relationship that no outsider can manipulate or interfere with. In order to find out really if your partner is open to this, you first should explore each others fantasies and wild sides. Let's face it, everyone has a wild side! Get to know your partner inside out!
Try various methods to bring out their kinkiness. Start a sex toy collection for the two of you to use in the bedroom. Experiment and try new things! Be creative and spontaneous by dressing up in sexy adult costumes, playing sex games or watching pornos. Get your partner comfortable with talking about sex openly and expressing their sexuality with you as well as you with your partner.
Swinging Versus Cheating
Know that there is a difference between swinging and cheating. Swinging includes both partners and is something that most swingers have enough respect for their mate to be open and honest. There are no secrets!!
Cheating is a deceptive way people use to have sex without their partner's knowledge or consent. We are all adults here, discuss all feelings and emotions openly. You should be able to be yourself at all times with your partner but always consider their feelings as well and come to a compromisable agreement.
What we've found out about some of the people we've met in the lifestyle is that they would rather go out and be deceptive and cheat instead of trying to find out if their partner is willing to swing. But guess what, you will never know unless you ask! Make sure you two are on the same page before you start dealing with others. If your not solid in your relationship, problems and complications may occur.
Swing Etiquette
Live, Love and Swing Together!
~That has always been our motto and should be yours as well. Always let others see you as a couple.
Be Polite, Friendly but Firm!
~Treat people with respect, even if you don't want to meet with them. You may have other things in common besides just sex or they may know others who you maybe interested in. And know if you are not interested, its okay to say no, be firm. People will respect you for getting to the point and not wasting their time. Remember, its not what you say but how you say it! If you do plan to meet someone, always arrive with something for the hosts or if you are hosting, have refreshments for your guests. (Sex Games, Condoms & Pornos).Create a relaxed atomsphere.
Always be Prepared!
~BYOB-Bring your own bag if you plan to go out for the evening or to a party. Bring Toiletries, condoms, towels, soap and extra clothes.
Practice Good Hygiene!!
~First impressions are very important! Fresh breath, a clean body and well-groomed!
Have Fun!
~Enjoy yourselves and do whats fun or feels right to you! Again, its okay to say no if you feel uncomfortable doing something. You are not obligated to do something against your will.
Again, these are just a few starter tips to get your started into the swing game. For more details of how to enter the lifestyle, download a copy of "Getting into the Swing of Things", a book written by Mel Douthett. You will get great insight of starting and avoiding alot of the mistakes that we made when we first started. Learn from the pros! Click Here.
Recommended Swingers Contact Sites
A very popular site with a large member base with over 5,000,000 members. Cost is only $19.95 to 29.95 per month and includes viewing other members webcams, instant messaging, viewing other members pictures and profiles and joining different groups and networks. Well worth it! Click Here
This site is run by true swingers. They offer various parties to attend, trips and contests as well as meeting other swingers from different areas. Membership is $11.95 per month or $31.95 every three months. Definitely worth a look! Click Here.
